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May 13, 2010
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Hi Friends,
Today, let me share with you regarding a client suffering from unforgiveness: The difficult case of my client Justine….
Justine was raped and abused as a child by a male friend of the family. Left unprotected and often neglected by her mother and by her aunt, who she blamed, even though the aunt was just a couple of years older than Justine, and who had also been raped by this same male, she struggled for years with feelings of guilt, bitterness, hatred and anger toward all three of them.
She recognized that she harbored unforgiveness, but no amount of logic would allow her to let it go. She had been in counseling for years. She had tried Reiki and another energy healing method with little results. She had tried journaling to rid herself of the awful feelings. However, the emotions remained, still entrenched and strong as ever. She suffered bouts of depression, outbursts of anger, then repentance and remorse, continually living on an emotional rollercoaster. She wasn’t able to enjoy a social life, preferring to be alone with her pets and her work, but then becoming depressed because “no one loved her.”
When she contacted me, she didn’t really hold out much hope of help, but she was willing to try one more thing. We began to work on her feelings, using the energy technique I teach. In the beginning she adamantly refused to ever forgive. She hated them all and wasn’t about to turn lose of any of it. She vowed to hate them till her dying day.
By the end of the first lesson she was willing to entertain the idea of forgiving the male – not fully forgiving him, but at least willing to consider the idea, but she still bitterly hated her mother and aunt for allowing the abuse to happen to her. She wouldn’t let them off so easily.
After working with her and the technique over the next couple of weeks, an hour at a time, and dealing with each aspect concerning her anger, resentment and bitterness, we finally arrived at a letting go. She finally accepted that the damage and suffering from unforgiveness was only to her -- not to the perpetrators she had hated so much.
At that point, she still didn’t want to anything to do with her aunt, who she felt should have been her protector, but she could now see that her aunt was in no better place to protect her than she herself had been. Her aunt was vulnerable and couldn’t be expected to protect a small child either. Another session relieved that resentment, as well.
She had struggled with these toxic emotions for 50 years – even to the point of depression and suicide. She isolated herself from others because of her anger and her emotional outbursts, and she tried everything she knew to relieve herself of the symptoms she suffered.
As she finally came to understand through this wonderful energy healing technique, unforgiveness doesn’t hurt the person it is directed towards. It ONLY hurts the one who refuses to forgive. We feel the anger and we feel the betrayal and we feel the hurt. The perpetrator feels none of that. The feelings we experience cause our brain to release chemicals into our blood stream which wreck havoc on our own tissues, our DNA and our vital immune system. Thus, WE suffer from unforgiveness, not the party who injured us. So we suffer twice. Once by their actions and again by our own.
However, just because our logical mind can finally understand and accept, doesn’t mean that our subconscious mind agrees or will allow what our rational mind chooses. For instance: How many times have you decided to go on a diet or to break some habit? But you can’t stick with it? That’s because your subconscious mind is not in alignment with that choice! We struggle with our subconscious, because it is the master of our behavior. And it is not nearly as amenable to accept change, as our conscious mind is to logic and persuasion. We can see the need for a diet, but the subconscious isn’t tuned in to that choice. Using this amazing energy healing technique, we can access the subconscious and bring it into alignment with our conscious mind’s choices. Once the subconscious is in alignment, the change comes easily!
There were many aspects involved with her unforgiveness issue, and we worked through them, one by one, over a period of several weeks. But today, her outlook is no longer resentful, depressed and angry. In just a matter of a few weeks, we accomplished what YEARS of counseling hadn’t been able to budge.
I hear from Justine occasionally. The change in her is remarkable. She is much happier, much more outgoing and even bringing new relationships into her social and business arena. And she no longer struggles with mood swings and irrational outbursts.
If you are struggling with the past… If you harbor hatred and unforgiveness, or merely bitterness and anger towards someone, wouldn’t you love to be free of those destructive feelings? Remember, they are destructive only to you in your own body. The object of your anger doesn’t even know or care how you suffer.
You can change it. Don’t’ continue to punish yourself and continue to suffer for more years. Live with the peace and joy you desire, which truly makes you free. Leave all the resentment and anger behind and enjoy life again.
Do you think that maybe you have forgiven them? In your conscious logical mind, perhaps you have made that choice. But is your subconscious in alignment with that choice? One way to test it is to think of the hurt and damage caused by that person. Dwell on what they did and how you were hurt by it. Do you have any feelings left associated with that memory? Think of each different aspect of the situation and your memory of it. If you have any ill feelings left on any of it, your subconscious is NOT in alignment with your conscious mind, and it is still punishing you with ill feelings and bad chemical releases into your blood stream which damage you. You can erase all the ill feelings. Not the memory. It will remain, but you will have no ill feelings to stir up and cause bad things to happen to your immune system or in your body. Learn this technique and be free!
Check out the web page. Read the testimonies and the Blog. You can learn how to change your life, too.
Love and blessings,
Jan
Interesting article on forgiveness:
“Why Do We Find It So Hard to Forgive?
One reason we resist forgiving is that we don't really understand what forgiveness is or how it works. We think we do, but we don't.
Most of us assume that if we forgive our offenders, they are let off the hook — scot-free — and get to go about their merry ways while we unfairly suffer from their actions. We also may think that we have to be friendly with them again, or go back to the old relationship. While God commands us to forgive others, he never told us to keep trusting those who violated our trust or even to like being around those who hurt us.
The first step to understanding forgiveness is learning what it is and isn't. The next step is giving yourself permission to forgive and forget, letting go of the bitterness while remembering very clearly your rights to healthy boundaries. “
You can read the rest of the article here. http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/forgiveness_and_restoration.aspx
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You’ll be surprised at the peace this simple energy healing technique can bring,
and you can learn to do it for yourself, anytime, anywhere, in just a few minutes.
So simple a child can (and has!) used it effectively.
Please don’t give up hope. Don’t give in to the “Why Bother” syndrome! The stresses in your life can be dismissed in a few minutes.
Why struggle day after day with the same old problems, which only cause stress and worry and fear -- which wrecks havoc with your heart and blood pressure, when with just a few minutes with this technique can bring you results beyond imagining! WAY better and so much faster than Yoga or Hypnosis or Acupuncture or any of the conventional therapies. Much simpler. Pain FREE. And with lasting results.
This simple relaxation technique involves no drugs or supplements, no counseling, no painful rehashing of traumatic past events, no forcing yourself to “be brave and face your fears!”
Yet, it has consistently demonstrated that it can bring personal peace to those suffering from stress and anxiety, depression, fears and phobias, and even chronic pain! Results are, across the board, impressive and highly rewarding to the sufferers of these debilitating problems.
Check out the web page and then call me or email me for your appointment. You can use every day of your life to relax your stressors and calm your brain and body. Life can be joyous again!
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Thank you.
Jan
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